What does a healthy relationship look like? What if I’m dating a foreigner? How can be combined Ukrainian and ‘another, foreign’ ways of thinking? What should I know for the dating with the beloved one to result in marriage? – many people have these questions, so let’s try to find out what the main principles of healthy dating are.
First of all, ask your partner about his/her beliefs about relationships. Different people have different and often conflicting beliefs about relationships. Choose a partner wisely and well. We are attracted to people for all kinds of reasons. They remind us of someone from our past. When dating they shower us with gifts and make us feel important. So, evaluate a potential partner as you would a friend; look at his/her character, personality, values, connection between words and actions, etc. There is another very important thing - don't confuse sex with love. Especially in the beginning of a relationship, on the stage of dating, for attraction and pleasure in sex are often mistaken for love. Moreover, no healthy dating exists without viewing yourselves as a team, which means you are two unique individuals bringing different views and ideas. Know your needs and speak up for them clearly. Dating is not a guessing game. Many people, men as well as women, fear stating their needs and, as a result, camouflage them. The result is disappointment at not getting what they want and anger at a partner for not having met their needs. Closeness cannot occur without honesty. Remember, your partner is not a mind reader. It goes without saying that mutual respect is essential to a good relationship. If during the dating period you realize that you really want to spend a future together, talk about your dreams with each other to make sure you're both on the same life path. And finally the last thing: sex is good but pillow talk is better. Sex is easy, intimacy is difficult. It requires honesty, openness, confiding concerns, fears as well as hopes and dreams.
So, remember that dating is only the first stair step of the long ladder that is called relationship.